Do We Have Free Will or Are Our Lives Pre-determined?

We will probablynever know the extent to which our lives are predetermined. Fate has mystified the greatest thinkers across civilizations.

An insightful story about fate is Oedipus Rex by the second century playwrite Sophocles. In it, a king and queen are told by the Oracle of Delphi that their newborn son will grow up to kill his father and marry his mother. Determined to avoid this terrible fate, Laertes and Jocasta get rid of the boy, and by doing so, they unwittingly seal their fate.

After twenty years of reading people's lives, I've come to see that most people cause their futures with their unconscious desire to fulfill unmet needs of childhood. Like a moth to the flame we seek a man who makes us feel like our father or a woman who makes us feel like our mother did -- happy or sad, loved or neglected. Like a fly caught in a spider web, we struggle repeatedly to get the love we didn't get from that man who resembles the father who was never there or the narcissistic controlling mother who we could never please.But as long as we seek a relationship with the same deficiencies we experienced as a child, we are fated to be disappointed. Fated, because it is our evolutionary imperative to seek a mate similar to the family of origin. And it is our evolutionary imperative to seek the nutrients we did not get as a child in order to grow.

But I thought we already had grown up, whether or not our parents gave us the love we needed?

John looks like a grown up. He holds a job like a grown up ­ a brilliant surgeon or a nationally renowned litigator. But emotionally, John, who’s narcisstic mother never saw him as separate from herself, is still five years old, seeking beautiful women who are only in love with the image they see in the mirror. He tries to woo them with money and power, but he will always be disappointed. What’s wrong with me? John asks. Why can’t I be loved? It’s nothing wrong with you, John. It’s your choice of woman that’s always going to end this way. Unwittingly John sniffs out the one woman who cannot love him.

People know unconsciously the truth about their lives. But they don’t want to see it or can’t see it. If I can reveal it for them with the visions that emanate from their psyches, they can free them from their fate by seeing the path they are on.

KNOW THE TRUTH AND THE TRUTH SHALL MAKE YOU FREE

Oedipus unwittingly fulfilled his fate to kill his father and marry his mother, because, like most of us, he did not know that the man who was his rival was his father. Nor did he know that the woman he fell in love with and married was his mother Jocasta.

Men too do not recognize their fathers in the men they see as rivals, nordotheyrecognizetheirmothersin the women they want. When Oedipus finally sees the truth of his marriage, he plucks out his eyes in despair, and ironically, becomes a blind man who “sees.” He finally finds peace in his inner wisdom, a wisdom that relies on inner visions, rather than his outward eyes that had never served him well.

So many first marriages end in divorce, when we realize that the mate we were drawn to could not love us (or us them) any better than our parents. It is by seeing within ourselves that we can finally be free of our childhood fate. And this revelation is ultimately the gift of innervisioning­ to give people understanding of their unconscious motives and the paths they are following.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF CONSULTATONS? Most people call because they are in pain. They have a question they need answers to for peace of mind. I first share some inner visions I get from their unconscious thoughts. Then I workwiththemtoanswer every question they ask, because all of their questions arise from the same malaise. All of their questions are the stairway to healing.